September 11, 2010

License to Parent...

Should there be a required license to be a Parent?

15 comments:

  1. of course not ... can you imagine? the TEA PARTY would love that one (government getting in everyone's business, etc.) no, no license required, everyone just brings themselves into this most important role ... what else can you do?

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  2. NO! You can only pray that once the decision is made the mother will accept her responsiblity. The one caviate i will offer is when people see that a child is at risk they will do the responsible/right thing to protect the child.

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  3. Well, maybe not a license per se, but potential parents do need some training, education, and help. You can't just go and drive a car or fly a plane or practice law/medicine, etc. without proper training and demonstrated skills and knowledge. I know it's a little bit radical and I know that people have been raising kids since the dawn of time...but, I'm just sayin'...

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  4. Although such a thing would prove to be difficult, if not impossible to enforce, it would be nice to evaluate those who plan to have children before they become pregnant to determine if they have any abusive tendencies. I know, I know, it's no body's business. . .until the police are called, hospitals take in the patients and funeral arrangements have to be made. Trusting in God is what I do.

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  5. If I shut off my moralistic tendencies (easy to do) I could argue that while society could control pregnancies via technology (a combination of smart tags, micro machines and chemistry) industrial society probably needs random uncontrolled ...pregnancies to maintain a robust gene pool and replacement population births. The question Harris asks pertains to parenting not eugenics. That said, while we think we could control pregnancy licensing for the purposes of ensuring good parenting we would tend to slide into poorly executed eugenics. My bottom line - we should do it (my Yes above) but as a society we could not (we'd damage or eventually destroy the gene pool through unforeseen consequences while living in a police state).

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  6. Here's my question: WHO is 'qualified' to license said parents? The State?

    (I laugh so hard at that idea I may piddled a little)...

    Note the sarcasm (Must be a teapartier type)...

    ;-)

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  7. Okay maybe not a "licesne," but something should be required. You know not only do two people have to have a license to marry, but most ministers and other religious leaders will not marry you until you have completed counseling. It's not to allow the government into your business, but I think that people need to understand that parenting is a job. It's one that will never end. It's one that does not come with sacrifices. It kills me how people say how much they sacrificed for their children. No, not a sacrifice -- that's your job. When you made the decision to bring that child into the world, you also made a decision to raise that child making them your priority. There's no sacrifice in that, it's what you are supposed to do.

    I believe that many people want babies, not children. They want the cute cuddly little person who they can play with and put to bed several times. They are not prepared for that baby to morph into a child with one million one questions or the pre-teen who starts to discover themselves fully or the teenager who knows everything and tests you constantly.

    I can't say that there should be a license, but they should be some preparation. Maybe during the pregancy, all parents should be given required reading about the parenting. Maybe all couples should be asked the question as to whether or not they want to raise children.

    I am so tired of runnng into parents who use schools as day care and involove their children in everything possible just to get keep them away. It sickens me that parents don't make their children their priority...this is shown by the facts that their children are always late for school if they go at all, or the homework is never checked or the children eat McD's or BK or Wendy's everyday. It's a damn shame that a child should know the menus of every fast food restuarant.

    License specifically, no, but something should be done. Okay here's an option: maybe we can develop a program similar to "Scared Straight." Have the prospective parents go into a facility of children where they must spend at least 48 hours. Hell that migt even serve as a great birth-control method as well.

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  8. ? I am torn on this. Maybe not a license but something should be proven that you are ready for this HUGE responsibilty.

    Just because have the ability to mother and father a child does not mean you should. Especially, if over the years, you have proven to be irresponsible. Hell no, do not bring a baby in this world you cannot take care of and will neglect or leave for someone to pick up your responsibility. Babies deserve more than that.

    Somthing needs to be done.

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  9. E. ChamberlainSeptember 13, 2010

    Until you've had to get up for the third time in a night with a sick kid, it's not really possible to predict what kind of parent you would be. Reading a manual won't help much at 3am. But most people find, as I did, that they love their kids more than they could ever have imagined.

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  10. Dale McNeillSeptember 13, 2010

    I think that what potential parents need is a community. In my family, there are plenty of young people having children. Some try to do it alone. Others, though, raise their children in a more old-fashioned way, in a big extended family and with friends. That seems to work a lot better. There too much to know, I think, for anyone to raise children without a lot of help.

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  11. J. Borders...AtlantaSeptember 13, 2010

    Yes, CAREGIVERS, esp. parents should take training classes, complete w/a test at the end (this from a childless chick). How is it that we require credentials for serving or selling liquor and carrying a gun, but not for raising a human being?? Beats me!

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  12. There was time when parents were informally mentored by their parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, neighbors, church folk etc. With the weaken sense of community we have lost this mentoring and the wisdom, advisement, tips, and experiences that was shared with it. Parents are truly left, more than ever, on their own when it comes to parenting and the results are very apparent.

    I think there should be parenting classes offered (elementary school would be a great host after hours as they are in every community and reasonably accessible). Attendees should qualify for a tax break. School systems and Courts can refer/require parents to avoid their child's explosion from school or juvenile detention time. Social Services can refer for reunification plans if the child has been removed or to avoid removal of the child.

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  13. Okay maybe not a "licesne," but something should be required. You know not only do two people have to have a license to marry, but most ministers and other religious leaders will not marry you until you have completed counseling. It's not to allow the government into your business, but I think that people need to understand that parenting is a job. It's one that will never end. It's one that does not come with sacrifices. It kills me how people say how much they sacrificed for their children. No, not a sacrifice -- that's your job. When you made the decision to bring that child into the world, you also made a decision to raise that child making them your priority. There's no sacrifice in that, it's what you are supposed to do.

    I believe that many people want babies, not children. They want the cute cuddly little person who they can play with and put to bed several times. They are not prepared for that baby to morph into a child with one million one questions or the pre-teen who starts to discover themselves fully or the teenager who knows everything and tests you constantly.

    I can't say that there should be a license, but they should be some preparation. Maybe during the pregancy, all parents should be given required reading about the parenting. Maybe all couples should be asked the question as to whether or not they want to raise children.

    I am so tired of runnng into parents who use schools as day care and involove their children in everything possible just to get keep them away. It sickens me that parents don't make their children their priority...this is shown by the facts that their children are always late for school if they go at all, or the homework is never checked or the children eat McD's or BK or Wendy's everyday. It's a damn shame that a child should know the menus of every fast food restuarant.

    License specifically, no, but something should be done. Okay here's an option: maybe we can develop a program similar to "Scared Straight." Have the prospective parents go into a facility of children where they must spend at least 48 hours. Hell that migt even serve as a great birth-control method as well.

    ReplyDelete
  14. If I shut off my moralistic tendencies (easy to do) I could argue that while society could control pregnancies via technology (a combination of smart tags, micro machines and chemistry) industrial society probably needs random uncontrolled ...pregnancies to maintain a robust gene pool and replacement population births. The question Harris asks pertains to parenting not eugenics. That said, while we think we could control pregnancy licensing for the purposes of ensuring good parenting we would tend to slide into poorly executed eugenics. My bottom line - we should do it (my Yes above) but as a society we could not (we'd damage or eventually destroy the gene pool through unforeseen consequences while living in a police state).

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